Patience and Purity When Wanting Sex

Posted on February 21, 2019 by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith

In part two of this three-part interview, Dr. Smith talks with Keisa Jones, author of Preparation While You Wait, Real Talk For Women of God Waiting On Their Promise about patience and purity when wanting sex.

In today’s episode, author Keisa Jones speaks to us about patience and how she has developed it when she wants sex but is single and saved. She also talks about her incredible trust in God and how she has developed that trust with God and where it has lead her to.

Eagles In Leadership highly recommends Keisa’s book to you. If you would like to purchase Keisa’s book, just click the book title here: Preparation While You Wait, Real Talk For Women of God Waiting On Their Promise.

* WARNING: This is a frank and transparent discussion and may not be suitable for younger listeners.

About our guest author: Keisa Jones is a passionate woman of great faith and loves the Lord with every fiber of her being. She is an encourager, motivator and servant leader in the Body of Christ; being called to share the truth and love of God to the NATIONS. She understands the mandate from God to go to the nations and kingdoms “to uproot and tear down, to destroy and overthrow, to build and to plant.” During an encounter 10 years ago with the power of salvation, she fully surrendered her life to God. Learning through prayer, relationship and the study of God’s Word has been her focus and commitment.

She currently serves as a Minister of Open Door Worship Center under the leadership of Bishop Deon and Prophetess Fannette Douglas. The Lord has given Keisa a heart and passion for leaders and those hurt and broken. She has dedicated her life to live as a true example of a BELIEVER and FOLLOWER of Jesus Christ. Her motto has become, “For God I live and for God, I die!

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Willing Worker Wednesday – God Chose You To Speak Out

Posted on February 20, 2019 by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith

“In the fifteenth year of the reign of Tiberius Caesar, while Pontius Pilate was governor of Judea, Herod was tetrarch of Galilee, his brother Philip tetrarch of the region of Iturea and Trachonitis, and Lysanias tetrarch of Abilene, during the high priesthood of Annas and Caiaphas, God’s word came to John the son of Zechariah in the wilderness. He went into all the vicinity of the Jordan, preaching a baptism of repentance for the forgiveness of sins.” (Luke 3:1–3, HCSB)

God’s word came to John the son of Zechariah in the wilderness. God has given you a unique message. While there are lots of other people in the world – as of this writing it’s 7.53 billion – God has given you a unique message to tell. And the choice is always ours. Will we give voice to the message of God or will we remain silent like so many others have done and continue to do?

You will notice in this passage we have just read that there is a king, some governors (tetrarchs are governors), and two high priests. However, if you slow down you will notice God didn’t speak to any of those VIPs. He chose a seeming “nobody” to speak a message that turned people into “somebodies” – children of God.

And this is God’s preferred method. As Paul writes, “Instead, God has chosen what is foolish in the world to shame the wise, and God has chosen what is weak in the world to shame the strong. God has chosen what is insignificant and despised in the world —what is viewed as nothing—to bring to nothing what is viewed as something, so that no one can boast in His presence.” (1 Corinthians 1:27–29, HCSB)

You have been given a message for humanity. While you may not know it yet, someone needs to hear that message. It will make an eternal impact. That is why God entrusted you with it and you to share it. Something will not be right in the Kingdom of God if you do not share that message.

What’s more, the message God has given you is probably not like what others are saying. I mean, if it was you wouldn’t be necessary, right? The way you speak, the words you use, the tone you deliver it in, and the personality you wrap all that in is the essential key God will use to change a life or lives.

You are amazing! Give voice to God’s message in you!

 

Willing Worker Wednesdays are dedicated to explaining the core realities of servant leadership – the Biblical principles and methods used by God’s faithful people throughout time. They further reflect the lifestyle of Jesus, the King of kings and Lord of lords as He walked on this earth announcing the Kingdom of God had arrived. These brief lessons are written by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith, Executive Director of Eagles In Leadership, and come from his extensive ministry within the local church, in higher education, in church consulting and as a Biblical author and leader. He welcomes your comments below.

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Turn-Around Tuesday – When God Sends Help

Posted on February 19, 2019 by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith

“When Abram heard that his kinsman had been taken captive, he led forth his trained men, born in his house, 318 of them, and went in pursuit as far as Dan. And he divided his forces against them by night, he and his servants, and defeated them and pursued them to Hobah, north of Damascus. Then he brought back all the possessions, and also brought back his kinsman Lot with his possessions, and the women and the people.” (Genesis 14:14–16, ESV)

Then he brought back all the possessions, and also brought back his kinsman Lot with his possessions, and the women and the people. Captivity is no place for the child of God! Yet, all too often, the forces against us seem to be greater than the strength within us.  When we lose the battle to the beasts that prey upon us, despair can become an all too familiar “friend.”

It is the darkness that destroys many of us. Whether the lights are on or not, we feel the oppression and we grope for a way out, to no avail. It doesn’t matter anymore whether our choices or someone else’s advances brought about our incarceration. This captivity eats our soul alive. Sadness overwhelms and hope fades.

Lot was a captive along with all those from his community. Overwhelming forces quickly carried the people of Sodom away. Just looking around created a sense of hopelessness. All these people and so many more military! Life couldn’t get any worse, that’s for sure.

If you are where Lot was, and you’re locked up and away by forces greater than you can overcome, God wants you to hear that help is on the way! He has those who love you all around. Being dear to another means greater hope in the moment.

You are on God’s mind and as you cry out to Him in your darkness, God’s heart is pulled. Just as a father cannot bear the cries of pain from his child, so too, God can’t bear your weeping and tears.

Now is the time to explode in a cacophony of wailing. Vent your pain to God. Let Him hear the agony you are in. He is moved by your emotion and will mount your rescue quickly in order to bring His captive child home safe and sound.

Be real, be vocal, and be ready for your release! Help is on the way!

Turn-Around Tuesdays are designed to bring hope and help, insight and encouragement to those of us who are simply overwhelmed by the flood of problems life throws at us. No one is immune to trials and troubles, but God has a way of lifting us from life’s torrents. Each short thought is written by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith, Executive Director of Eagles In Leadership, and comes from his life-journey with the God who never leaves us or forsakes us. He welcomes your comments below.

 

 

 

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Magnificent Marriage Monday – Struggling To Believe The Impossible!

Posted on February 18, 2019 by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith

“God said to Abraham, “As for your wife Sarai, do not call her Sarai, for Sarah will be her name. I will bless her; indeed, I will give you a son by her. I will bless her, and she will produce nations; kings of peoples will come from her.” Abraham fell facedown. Then he laughed and said to himself, “Can a child be born to a hundred-year-old man? Can Sarah, a ninety-year-old woman, give birth?”” (Genesis 17:15–17, CSB)

Abraham fell facedown. Then he laughed and said to himself, “Can a child be born to a hundred-year-old man? Can Sarah, a ninety-year-old woman, give birth?” Why is it so hard to believe God when He tells us He will do the impossible in our marriage? Why do we choose not to believe? Why is doubt easier than faith?

Notice Abraham’s reaction to God’s promise. “Abraham fell facedown. Then he laughed.” Have you ever reacted like this to something God has told you concerning your marriage? Sometimes the promises of God seem ridiculous, especially when we are walking in the flesh and not in the Spirit. Doubt requires nothing of us.

When Abraham heard these words of God, the promise of a son from his post-menopausal wife, his knowledge of science overruled his experience with his God. Are you familiar with this scenario? Do you know what I’m talking about?

Often we choose to believe what we know instead of whom we know. When our rational mind overtakes God’s promises, we are headed for unbelief. It is in those moments that we must will ourselves to trust the One who spoke and the universe appeared. Until we do that, we will hold God’s promises for our marriage in derision.

“Now faith is the reality of what is hoped for, the proof of what is not seen.” (Hebrews 11:1, CSB) Reality. There’s the issue. Is God our reality? Or, do we trust what we can touch and see? The Bible calls that walking by sight and not by faith (1 Corinthians 5:7).

Marriage is about trusting God, about believing God for the impossible. When we lead with a, “Yes, God, I believe you!” God does amazing things for us. Marriage changes when we act in faith!

What impossible thing do you need to trust God for right now?

Magnificent Marriage Mondays are helpful hints, clues, ideas, and solutions for the child of God who is looking for a spouse, in a relationship with someone, or are already married. Each post seeks to bring help, hope, and honesty to your life and make the rest of your life, the best of your life. They are written by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith, Executive Director of Eagles In Leadership, and come from his 38 years, 5 months and 2 days experience with his wife, Melodee, who was promoted to Heaven on November 11, 2017. He is currently seeking God’s will for his new life partner. He welcomes your comments below.

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Hope For Today – Loving One Another Just As Jesus Loves Us!

Posted on February 17, 2019 by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith

I’m Dr. Matthew Lee Smith and I want to share some Hope For Today about, Loving one another just as Jesus loves us!

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Faith Filled Friday – Praying In Faith!

Posted on February 15, 2019 by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith

“And he said, “O Lord, God of my master Abraham, please grant me success today and show steadfast love to my master Abraham. Behold, I am standing by the spring of water, and the daughters of the men of the city are coming out to draw water. Let the young woman to whom I shall say, ‘Please let down your jar that I may drink,’ and who shall say, ‘Drink, and I will water your camels’—let her be the one whom you have appointed for your servant Isaac. By this I shall know that you have shown steadfast love to my master.”” (Genesis 24:12–14, ESV)

By this I shall know that you have shown steadfast love to my master. Why do we allow the faithless to tell us how to pray? I mean, seriously, have you noticed what they say to us. “You can’t pray like that! I mean, you can’t tell God what the scenario will be. He’s sovereign and Almighty. He’s in charge. He’ll tell you what will happen.”

Often these well-meaning people are educated in the Bible and have more years with Christ than we do. And so, we believe them … until we start reading our Bibles! And then, we realize that the men and women of faith did a lot of things that the people of faith today tell us not to do.

It’s at that moment when we stop and think, reflect and wonder. While we aren’t going to get judgmental, we should become fruit inspectors. Jesus said, “If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. By this my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be my disciples.” (John 15:7–8, ESV) The fruit Jesus refers to in these words is answered prayers. Do these well-meaning people have the fruit of God-sized answers to their prayers? Do they share those answers?

When Abraham’s servant asked God for favor, he wanted to be absolutely sure he didn’t mess this up. After all, this was going to be the wife of his master’s son, the successor to the covenant of God and the heir to the Promised Land. Talk about pressure to get it right!

So, when life brings about important decisions, do as Abraham’s servant did: Pray in faith. Set out the scenario that will show you God has answered you. Don’t make it bizarre. Simply allow it to reveal God’s will, something a bit out of the ordinary.

Then, step back and watch God work.

Faith Filled Fridays hope to boost your trust in God and accelerate your daring and courage in everyday life. Dr. Matthew Lee Smith, Executive Director of Eagles In Leadership, writes each encouragement out of a heart that has known both great joy and great loss – his wife of 38 years, 5 months and 2 days was promoted to Heaven on November 11, 2017. Through every experience, God has proven Himself more than faithful and trustworthy. He welcomes your comments below.

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Sex In A Sex-Crazed Culture!

Posted on February 14, 2019 by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith

In this three-part interview, Dr. Smith discusses this issue with Keisa Jones, author of Preparation While You Wait, Real Talk For Women of God Waiting On Their Promise.

In part one of this three-part interview, Dr. Smith talks with Keisa Jones, author of Preparation While You Wait, Real Talk For Women of God Waiting On Their Promise about sex in a sex-crazed culture.

In today’s episode, author Keisa Jones shares her testimony, explaining why she speak to women and encourage them to wait to have sex until marriage. She also talks to us about how the pull of our sex-crazed society has had such an effect on her personally. And she wraps up this segment of the interview talking about being weak in the flesh and how women can get strong in the Spirit.

Eagles In Leadership highly recommends Keisa’s book to you. If you would like to purchase Keisa’s book, just click the book title here: Preparation While You Wait, Real Talk For Women of God Waiting On Their Promise.

* WARNING: This is a frank and transparent discussion and may not be suitable for younger listeners.

About our guest author: Keisa Jones is a passionate woman of great faith and loves the Lord with every fiber of her being. She is an encourager, motivator and servant leader in the Body of Christ; being called to share the truth and love of God to the NATIONS. She understands the mandate from God to go to the nations and kingdoms “to uproot and tear down, to destroy and overthrow, to build and to plant.” During an encounter 10 years ago with the power of salvation, she fully surrendered her life to God. Learning through prayer, relationship and the study of God’s Word has been her focus and commitment.

She currently serves as a Minister of Open Door Worship Center under the leadership of Bishop Deon and Prophetess Fannette Douglas. The Lord has given Keisa a heart and passion for leaders and those hurt and broken. She has dedicated her life to live as a true example of a BELIEVER and FOLLOWER of Jesus Christ. Her motto has become, “For God I live and for God, I die!

 

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Train Them Thursday – How We Measure God’s Value!

Posted on February 14, 2019 by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith

“When they saw the star, they rejoiced exceedingly with great joy. After coming into the house they saw the Child with Mary His mother; and they fell to the ground and worshiped Him. Then, opening their treasures, they presented to Him gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh. And having been warned by God in a dream not to return to Herod, the magi left for their own country by another way.” (Matthew 2:10–12, NASB95)

Then, opening their treasures, they presented to Him gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh. Sacrifice is at the center of discipleship. You will never see a miserly disciple. You may see someone who claims to be a follower of Jesus being stingy, but that’s just a pretender, a fake, a phony!

True followers of Jesus give because their Master and Lord gives. Just as Jesus told us that, “God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.” (John 3:16, NASB95) So, too, He said, “Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13, NASB95) Generosity is part and parcel of the soul of the devoted follower of King Jesus. We identify our faith by our sacrifice.

As the magi saw the star, “they rejoiced exceedingly with great joy.” Followers of Jesus are known for their demonstrations of faith. Everything is grander, greater in the life of the one who chooses the Path of Life. Thus, these men of learning had discovered that joy is something that one expresses and shares, causing it to multiply.

Sharing is the evidence of God’s residence, the mark of a follower of Jesus. Not only did these officials express their emotions publicly, but they also gave of their substance dramatically. They had traveled the nearly 1,000 miles at their own expense and now they opened expensive gifts, gifts fit for a king! Cheap is not a godly trait.

And this makes perfect sense when we remember these men came to worship Jesus. An old word, worship means to show forth the worth of the one we choose to worship. What we give reveals to what extent we value the one we are giving to. Literally, our gift reveals the actual worth God has in our lives and hearts, but you already knew that!

 

Train Them Thursdays seeks to wed the Great Commission directive of Jesus with the practice He employed while on Earth. Each nugget is meant to encourage the reader with a “can-do” spirit to realize that discipleship is something each person is both capable of and empowered to accomplish. Dr. Matthew Lee Smith, Executive Director of Eagles In Leadership, writes each thought and they flow out of decades of his tried and true field-testing in multiple settings from rural to inner city. He welcomes your comments below.

 

 

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Willing Worker Wednesday – Fulfilling God’s Role For Our Lives

Posted on February 13, 2019 by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith

““Why were you searching for Me?” He asked them. “Didn’t you know that I had to be in My Father’s house?” But they did not understand what He said to them. Then He went down with them and came to Nazareth and was obedient to them. His mother kept all these things in her heart. And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and with people.” (Luke 2:49–52, HCSB)

Then He went down with them and came to Nazareth and was obedient to them.It doesn’t matter who we are or how important we are, we all have roles to fulfill. Throughout our lives, we have the constant choice whether to fulfill the role God has given us at the moment or thrash about like a wild animal in a department store.

Roles are God-given responsibilities to perform specific functions for the purpose of accomplishing all God has designed for us at any given moment. Often, the fulfillment of a role today will determine our success or failure in the future.

So, when Jesus at the age of adulthood, focused his attention on the business of His heavenly Father, time slipped away. There, for days, He sat absorbing and discussing the things of God that were in the forefront of His heart and soul.

Soon, after days of separation, His frantic parents found Him. When they shared their concerns, Jesus matter-of-fact response shows us that He meant no rebellion or disrespect. Perhaps there’s even an air of confusion in the exchange. Jesus asked His parents, “Didn’t you know that I had to be in My Father’s house?”

Whatever the situation, He still had a role to execute. God wanted to train His Son through the leadership of Joseph and Mary. There were almost two decades before Jesus’ formal ministry would begin. So, “He went down with them and came to Nazareth and was obedient to them.” Obedience always teaches the lessons of leadership.

Whether we like it or not, today is a good day to stop and evaluate if we are fulfilling all of our God-given roles effectively. In order to discover all God has for us we will need to be, “submitting to one another in the fear of Christ” (Ephesians 5:21, HCSB) as Jesus did. Only then will God’s lessons of servant leadership nurture our souls.

 

Willing Worker Wednesdays are dedicated to explaining the core realities of servant leadership – the Biblical principles and methods used by God’s faithful people throughout time. They further reflect the lifestyle of Jesus, the King of kings and Lord of lords as He walked on this earth announcing the Kingdom of God had arrived. These brief lessons are written by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith, Executive Director of Eagles In Leadership, and come from his extensive ministry within the local church, in higher education, in church consulting and as a Biblical author and leader. He welcomes your comments below.

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Turn-Around Tuesday – Listening For His Foot Falls!

Posted on February 12, 2019 by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith

“Then one who had escaped came and told Abram the Hebrew, who was living by the oaks of Mamre the Amorite, brother of Eshcol and of Aner. These were allies of Abram. When Abram heard that his kinsman had been taken captive, he led forth his trained men, born in his house, 318 of them, and went in pursuit as far as Dan.” (Genesis 14:13–14, ESV)

Then one who had escaped came and told Abram the Hebrew. In the darkness, despair is all we can see. When we are trapped what can we do? Who do we cry out to?  How can we escape when we have no power to do so?

As tears run down our faces, God sees our pain. When there are no solutions God alone can intervene! And so He does, daily, repeatedly, often. If we listen more closely, if we tune our hearing to the stories of others around us, we will hear the footfalls of the One who alone is mighty to save.

In their stories, we hear lines like, “And then, out of nowhere …” “I don’t know how that happened …” “A total stranger came along …” These familiar and “coincidental” happenings are so common as to stagger the imagination when they are cataloged.

And that is just it. We need to start paying attention to the works of God all around us. This is the work of a believer. Unfortunately, we are far more often doubters in this life.

Yet, despite our unbelief and our depression over our current circumstances, God still works. He is always on the Throne and His love – exceeding love – never fails His own. And so, “then one who had escaped came and told Abram the Hebrew.”

While we don’t know anything about this person, their anonymity reminds us that God can and will use anyone at anytime to unlock the prison of pain and suffering we are in. God will send someone in His time to bring relief and release. God loves us that much.

Perhaps no one sees your chains. It might be that none of your family or friends are aware of the abuse or the harassment you endure. Be assured there is One who sees all and is mounting a rescue mission as you read these words. “Behold, he who keeps Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.” (Psalm 121:4, ESV) Help is on the way!

 

Turn-Around Tuesdays are designed to bring hope and help, insight and encouragement to those of us who are simply overwhelmed by the flood of problems life throws at us. No one is immune to trials and troubles, but God has a way of lifting us from life’s torrents. Each short thought is written by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith, Executive Director of Eagles In Leadership, and comes from his life-journey with the God who never leaves us or forsakes us. He welcomes your comments below.

 

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