Early in the morning Abimelech got up, called all his servants together, and personally told them all these things, and the men were terrified. Then Abimelech called Abraham in and said to him, “What have you done to us? How did I sin against you that you have brought such enormous guilt on me and on my kingdom? You have done things to me that should never be done.” Abimelech also asked Abraham, “What made you do this?”” (Genesis 20:8–10, CSB)

You have done things to me that should never be done. Our marriages are so special to God that He gets involved when we mistreat our spouse (See 0038 – My Marriage Is Protected By God!) He holds the marriage vows inviolable. There is no wiggle room with God on this issue.

He created us as a couple to enjoy all of the amazing benefits of communication. Removing isolation, the Lord God Almighty chose to design us to need one another for our daily existence. It is in that unity and free-flow of ideas and emotions that we thrive. Like the Godhead, marriage is designed to bring life abundantly through friendship, partnership, and companionship.

King Abimelech, after an awful night of accusation and threatening by the God of the Universe, confronts Abraham for the gross violation of his wife, Sarah. As he spews forth his righteous indignation, we see the consequences when we violate our spouse and turn against them.

First, the terror of God falls. This time it was upon the innocent party, which God kept from committing adultery. Next, the recriminations flow. How could anyone offer his wife to another? What did that say about how Abraham actually felt about Sarah and King Abimelech, knowing that God was close to him? Third, the damages were assessed. Though not a God-worshiper, Abimelech knew the consequences of adultery: enormous guilt for such a heinous sin. Finally, the judgment sears into Abraham: You have done things to me that should never be done.”

Purity and respect are key issues in marriage. When these are in place, God blesses us abundantly. When we fail to do so, even those apart from God will call us to account for our actions and motives. Our marriage should always be revered and defended at any cost.

Magnificent Marriage Mondays are helpful hints, clues, ideas, and solutions for the child of God who is looking for a spouse, in a relationship with someone, or are already married. Each post seeks to bring help, hope, and honesty to your life and make the rest of your life, the best of your life. They are written by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith, Executive Director of Eagles In Leadership, and come from his 38 years, 5 months and 2 days experience with his wife, Melodee, who was promoted to Heaven on November 11, 2017. He is currently seeking God’s will for his new life partner. He welcomes your comments below.